There are a few simple steps to Write a Thoughtful and Memorable Eulogy.
Gather the Facts:
Gather the facts such as birth date, childhood memories, graduation, marriage, children, carrier triumphs, pets, cars, sports, hobbies, clubs, charities, etc. Pull together as much poignant information that you can.
What Makes Them Special:
Whoever is being eulogized, there will always be something in his or her character that will ring true with all who attend. We are creatures of habit and the choices and personality characteristics we embody may be how we are remembered.
Pull Everything Together:
You have facts and a personalized antidote or two, so get this material in a flowing order. Going from birth to passing is fine, there is continuity in this. Those who knew met him or her at a certain time in their lives, will be familiar with the time line and appreciate learning some things about their past. Additionally you may wish to talk to friends and family members for specific areas you wish to discuss. An incredible sense of humor, a technical wiz, super mom, a teacher, or accomplishments in a career.
Delivery:
Once the Eulogy is complete be sure that those who are also speaking with not have the same points, if so, have them delivered in a different fashion. Large typed pages in a folder are best, you may be inside at a podium, or outside and in front of a large group, so you would want to easily control your pages and see your speech. Next, practice your eulogy. It should flow, stand in front of a mirror and read to friends and family to get feedback about the delivery of the eulogy. Remember breathe, pause, take your time. If the speech is well written, the worst that can happen is that it is read too quickly. And remember that humor and laughter is the best medicine for those grieving.
What if I break down:
Even if you have been chosen to deliver the eulogy because you were considered the best person for the job, you too can have severe emotions on this day. In this case and it happens often, have a back up person to read your funeral speech. They can be with you throughout the writing and preparation, as sometimes two head are better than one at this sad time. Or they may be your mutual practice coach. Just be sure they are close by, and if given a signal from you, can take over and deliver the eulogy.
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